Being a mom (or a parent) can’t be defined by just one word. Even so, it is exhausting – because it’s a lot of work! And that’s why it’s important that we all make sure we’re also taking care of ourselves – so that we’re up to the task. In any case, it’s also not easy to get some “me time” to bolster our health when we’re parenting – a catch 22, right? So let’s talk about how we can add some mom self care to our already crazy schedules.
Mom Self Care Can Be Simple and Quick
With our oldest child, he never slept. Not even kidding. Getting him to sleep was a production – and it meant I wasn’t getting much sleep, either. I was a zombie – or a mombie, if you will!
While that sleep deprived and struggling to do anything productive, my idea of self-care was very limited and super simple. And it almost always involved sleep or chocolate. Friends and family would come over to watch and hold my colicky baby so I could cat nap. And when they couldn’t stay for more than a moment, they brought me caffeine or chocolate or both.
Then, while up for hours with a screaming baby in the middle of the night, I’d read my favorite books or binge-watch my favorite shows on Netflix.
Here are some of the other simple, quick ideas for mom self-care when you’re exhausted:
- Get outside and enjoy nature. Even if it’s just while you’re taking out the trash.
- Read a chapter in your favorite book or scriptures.
- Meditate and practice mindfulness for two minutes. Perhaps while you’re going to the bathroom.
- Send everyone out of the kitchen while you cook for some alone time. They’ll all appreciate not having to help – and you get to be alone while not in the bathroom!
- Exercise – even if it’s just for five minutes.
- Choose to be in the moment with that sick kid – and sing along to Paw Patrol at the top of your lungs.
No matter what you choose, your mom self care regime can be as simple and quick as it needs to be. It doesn’t have to be fancy – it just has to help you feel more centered and more like you. Because that way, you’ll have more of you to give.
Self-Care Can Also Be Planned, Elaborate, and Awesome
Now, some people are in a different stage in life than I am. (Because, well, we’re all in different seasons in life – and that’s 100% normal. Enjoy where you’re at.)
In any case, maybe you’re able to do fancier, more elaborate outings or personal training as your preferred form of self-care. And you know what? That’s totally awesome. Way to go! Enjoy that massage or pedicure or a trip to the Caribbean.
Or perhaps you’ve got a group of gals and you can schedule a get-together once a month for a couple of hours. Maybe you go catch a show. That’s awesome.
I’ve had a couple of times where we scheduled a self-care girls’ trip – that just so happened to involve our kids. But you know what? Going to the zoo with my kids – and my friends – was a lifesaver for me. Yes, it was elaborate and a lot of hard work. But it was also a form of self care for this momma and I loved it.
In Either Case, Self-Care is an Attitude
You see, self care isn’t a thing. It’s an attitude. And when you choose to claim something for yourself – no matter what it is, it empowers you. So choose to do something for yourself. No matter how crazy your schedule is, find even one thing. Because once you’ve got one thing that you’ve claimed as your own, you’re going to have more of yourself to give.
That means more energy to deal with the kids. It means more power to love, especially when the kids are actively trying to wear down that last shred of patience. And it means your capability to give more of yourself becomes deeper and greater.
Because you’re worth it, friend. And things will change – and one day, you’ll be able to go to the bathroom alone again. Or so they tell me, anyway. In any case, go do something today to take care of yourself, friend. You’ve earned it.
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